Grief reactions
It is surprising to find - in this day and age - mothers-in-law and husbands who believe that spontaneous miscarriages are the fault of the woman. These are educated people, mind you, who have studied biology and literature and who understand the twisted nature of the human psyche from TV soap operas.
As if a woman is not going through enough heartache and trauma to have lost her own baby; she also has to deal with with blame and isolation.
Why do people turn on each other in times of grief? Why don't families stand together and hold each other up?
As if a woman is not going through enough heartache and trauma to have lost her own baby; she also has to deal with with blame and isolation.
Why do people turn on each other in times of grief? Why don't families stand together and hold each other up?
posted by tscd at 2:08 am
4 Comments:
I don't want to be cliche... but if you look beyond that to the entire woodwork on which the marriage has been built on, you'll probably find a lot of holes and a lot of expectations and a lot of pain. This probably is just one outworking of it.
It's sad but education definitely ISN'T the solution. Despite what people think.
No matter how much the world has progressed, pple always need to place blame on someone else when something happens. They hurt too much, and it makes sense to push the pain away.
Take care. :)
hamster: Probably. But you think that a family would huddle together instead of spreading out. That's what families are *for*.
lysithea: Doesn't it make it worse to push the pain onto someone else?
well... yes... that's why the husband and the mother-in-law react the same way against the wife.
It's just simply nauseating when you hear of such people. Wives (or husbands in the rarer cases) are the extras. They may be "part of the family" but they'll never really be IN the family.
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